How to Improve Expressive Language in Autism With ABA Based Strategies That Fit Real Life

If you are searching for how to improve expressive language in autism, you are probably living the hard parts. Your child may understand more than they can say. They may point, pull you by the hand, repeat phrases, or get upset when words do not come out the way they want. 

At Cardinal Pediatric Therapies, we treat expressive language as a skill set you can build in small, steady steps across play, routines, and social moments. Autism is a developmental disability that can affect communication and behavior, which is one reason language growth may look different and take more time. 

What expressive language in autism means

Expressive language in autism is how a child shares wants, needs, ideas, feelings, and information. It can include:

  • Gestures (pointing, waving, nodding)
  • Sounds or vocalizations
  • Pictures or icons
  • Sign language
  • Single words, short phrases, or full sentences
  • Devices that speak when a child selects words or symbols

If your child has an expressive language delay autism teams often look at two big questions: What can they express today, and what support helps them do it more easily in more places?

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A hopeful mindset: small steps count

Progress in language development in autism often appears slow until it suddenly becomes apparent. That is normal. A child might first learn to request, then in more rooms, then with more people, then with different words. Each step matters because it reduces frustration and increases connection.

Here are signs of meaningful progress that people miss:

  • Your child communicates faster, even without words
  • They start a message more often instead of waiting
  • They use the same skill with a new person
  • They recover from a communication breakdown more quickly

How ABA sets expressive language goals

ABA works best when goals align with real-life situations. ABA expressive language goals often begin with skills that help a child feel understood quickly.

In ABA, teams often teach language in categories like:

  • Requesting what they want or need
  • Labeling items, actions, or people
  • Answering simple questions
  • Commenting to share ideas, not just needs
  • Combining words into short phrases and sentences

You will sometimes hear goals described using “what happens before” and “what happens after.” That helps the team create practice opportunities and reinforce the message your child is trying to communicate.

If you want school-friendly examples that also work at home, this guide on communication strategies families and schools can share gives practical options for visuals, pacing, and functional communication. 

Step by step: how to improve expressive language in autism

Below is a step-by-step approach many families find realistic. You can use it whether your child uses gestures, pictures, single words, or sentences.

Step 1: Pick one message to build first

Start with a message that your child has a reason to use every day.

Good first targets:

  • “More”
  • “Help”
  • “All done”
  • “Break”
  • “Open”
  • “My turn”

Step 2: Create repeated chances to use it

Think in “practice moments,” not “practice sessions.”

Examples:

  • Put a snack in a clear container your child cannot open
  • Pause during a favorite song
  • Hold the bubbles closed and wait
  • Give a small amount of a preferred food and wait

Step 3: Prompt, then fade

Give just enough help so your child succeeds, then reduce support over time.

Prompt ideas:

  • Point to a picture card
  • Model the word once
  • Offer a choice: “Help or more?”
  • Use a simple gesture cue

Step 4: Reinforce the attempt

Reinforce the message, even if the form is imperfect. If your child points to “more,” give more. If they say “mo,” still honor it.

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Step 5: Expand slowly

Once the message appears frequently, add a small next step.

  • From pointing to pointing plus sound
  • From “more” to “more bubbles”
  • From “help” to “help please”
  • From “cookie” to “want cookie”

Concrete expressive language targets and examples

Parents often ask what “building expressive language skills” looks like in daily life. Here are examples you can borrow.

Asking for needs

  • Snack: “more,” “drink,” “open”
  • Toys: “help,” “turn,” “again”
  • Comfort: “hug,” “break,” “quiet”

Labeling and describing

  • Bath time: “soap,” “water,” “hot,” “cold”
  • Play: “car,” “go,” “stop,” “big,” “fast”
  • Outside: “bird,” “tree,” “swing,” “up”

Sharing ideas

This is a big step for helping autistic children express themselves beyond requests.

Start small:

  • “I see ___.”
  • “I like ___.”
  • That is funny.”
  • I did it.”

Short sentences

Aim for a sentence your child can say many times a day, not a perfect grammar lesson.

Examples:

  • “I want ___.”
  • Can I have ___?”
  • Help me ___.”
  • Let’s do ___.”

Everyday routines that support expressive language growth

Families do not need extra hours in the day. They need strategies that fit what already happens.

Meals

  • Offer two choices and pause
  • Use one repeatable phrase: “I want ___.”
  • Keep a picture option available for hard words

Bath time

  • Label actions as you do them: “wash,” “rinse,” “dry”
  • Pause before a favorite action so your child can request it
  • Practice “all done” and “more” naturally

Play

  • Put favorite items in view but out of reach to create a reason to request
  • Take turns and build “my turn” and “your turn”
  • Use simple “comment” prompts like “I see ___” during pretend play

If your child benefits from pictures or a device, AAC can support expressive language by adding reliable ways to communicate. ASHA explains AAC as tools and strategies that supplement or compensate for speech and language challenges. 

How ABA and speech therapy can work together

Many families compare ABA vs speech therapy, but the strongest plans often combine them. Speech therapy may focus on sound production, language structure, and motor planning for speech. ABA often focuses on building functional communication in everyday situations, then helping the child use those skills across people and settings.

A helpful way to think about it:

  • Speech therapy can help build the “how” of speech and language
  • ABA can help develop the“when, why, and where” a child uses communication
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How Cardinal builds expressive language into clinic and social settings

Families often want supports that feel like school and life, not drills. That is where structured practice matters.

In a clinic setting, children can practice expressive language with:

  • Clear routines that repeat across sessions
  • Play-based opportunities that motivate communication
  • Guided prompting and reinforcement that supports confidence
  • Gradual increases in complexity, like longer waits or peer interaction

This approach aligns with Cardinal’s in-clinic ABA therapy model, where teams can practice communication targets through structured activities and play routines. 

Expressive language also grows through peer interaction. Social play creates reasons to ask, comment, negotiate, and repair misunderstandings. Cardinal’s social skills training incorporates communication into turn-taking, conversation practice, and group routines. 

For families who want more school and home-aligned ideas, Cardinal’s autism resources library pulls together practical topics you can share with care teams. 

A steady path forward

If you keep one idea from this guide, keep this: how to improve expressive language in autism often comes down to repeated, supported practice in moments your child already lives. Start with one message, create many chances to use it, reinforce attempts, then expand slowly. 

That is how expressive language in autism becomes more flexible and more reliable over time, whether your child uses gestures, pictures, words, or sentences. Small steps add up, especially when home routines, clinic goals, and social practice all point in the same direction.

About the Author

Chief of Staff

Dr. Mike Henderson, Ph.D., BCBA-D, LBA

Regional Operations Director

North Carolina

Mike Henderson, PhD, LBA, BCBA-D, is the Regional Operations Director at Cardinal Pediatric Therapies. With over two decades of experience in behavior analysis and organizational leadership, he focuses on mentoring teams and fostering a culture of collaboration, growth, and excellence in client care. Mike believes strong leadership and supportive systems are essential for helping clients, families, and providers succeed together.

Felicia Freeman

Clinic Manager

I am Felicia Freeman, the Clinic Manager for Cardinal Pediatric Therapies. I have been in ABA for several years now and am passionate about the community that we serve. I started out as an RBT, decided to go the administrative route, and worked my way up to managing clinics. I choose this field every day because I enjoy making a meaningful impact in the lives of our clients and building strong teams that change lives.

Amanda Dean, MA, BCBA, LBA

Johnston County, NC

Amanda graduated from The Chicago School of Professional Psychology in 2018 with her Masters in Psychology. She proceeded to complete her graduate certificate in ABA and became a BCBA in November 2020. Amanda has a passion for behavior reduction, tolerance training and functional communication training. She enjoys spending as much time as she can with her 3 children and husband. When she’s not working, Amanda is very involved in her local Pop Warner Cheerleading program where she is the Assistant Cheer Director and a head coach.

Becky Fronheiser

Operations Director

Arizona

Becky has worked in behavioral health for 7 years. She joined Cardinal in the spring of 2024.  Becky is grateful for the opportunity to work with such a passionate group of people and looks forward to supporting families with their specific ABA needs.  In her personal time, she enjoys spending quality time with her husband, 6 kids and 4 grandkids and loves to travel and relax on the beach.

Matthew Wilkinson

Operations Director

Cary, NC

Matthew holds a bachelors degree from the University of Utah, Medical Degree from the Autonomous University of Guadalajara and an MBA from Western Governors University. He has worked in the pediatric field for the majority of his professional life and has a passion for helping bring the best care to children in need. He enjoys spending time with his wife and three children and day trips to the coast.

 

Trisha Iannotta Bieszczad, PsyD., BCBA

Triad, NC

Trisha is a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA) with extensive expertise since 2016 in applying behavior analytic principles to improve the lives of children and adolescents. Her professional journey began with a doctoral degree in clinical psychology, emphasizing child and adolescent development. This foundation has equipped her with a deep understanding of psychological theories and practices, which she seamlessly integrates into her work as a BCBA. Outside of her professional endeavors, Trisha enjoys reading, spending time outdoors with her family & trying out new restaurants. Trisha’s dedication to both her career and personal interests reflects her commitment to continual growth and enrichment, both professionally and personally. Her multifaceted background allows her to approach each aspect of her life with a blend of expertise, enthusiasm, and a genuine appreciation for learning and exploration.

Tina Lee

Director of Finance

Tina Lee is the Finance Director for Cardinal with a variety of experience in the Healthcare Industry for over 13 years. She is compassionate and always eager to assist where she can. In the ever-changing Healthcare environment, Tina has played a vital role in putting processes in place to obtain high efficiency outcomes to help our clients get the care they need. Tina enjoys the outdoors and loves spending time with her family.

William Evans

Director of Outreach and Recruitment

William is a UNCW Graduate who started his professional career working in Marketing and Recruiting for a local technology company before looking for an opportunity to take those skills and help others. In his spare time he plays hockey, including annually for the North Carolina Autism Hockey Tournament, which is dedicated to the raising money and awareness for organizations helping local families with children diagnosed with autism.

Alice Okamoto, MA, BCBA, LBA

Chief of Staff

Alice has been with Cardinal for over 4 years and has worn many hats along the way!  Alice has a passion for working with clients and families as a unit, supervising behavior analyst trainees, and collaborating on strategic initiatives to ensure clinical efficiencies.  Alice‘s professional experience began with ABA in a school setting, and has worked in schools, homes, and clinics throughout the years while enjoying collaboration with related providers.  In her free time, Alice enjoys traveling, exploring parks with her dog, Oliver, and trying new restaurants. 

Darrin Miller

CEO

Darrin has dedicated his education and career to the field of behavioral health. As a licensed therapist and master’s in clinical counseling he works to create solutions that improve the lives of those impacted by Autism Spectrum Disorder at a local, state, and national level. He strives to create a culture of caring and empathy while innovating solutions for improving families’ access to quality care as quickly as possible.